An Open Letter

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. During this time, and all year, our attitudes toward sexual assault as a community are measured not by the compassionate or irate words of single individuals. They are measured by the respect we as a community extend and the services we provide to victims, potential victims, and their loved ones.

Our respect is measured by our understanding that no individuals regardless of age, gender, race, religion, regardless of manner of dress, past actions, marital status, level of intoxication, sexual experience or any other factor deserves or encourages sexual assault. Our understanding that all individuals can be victims. Victims created not by the circumstances of their own actions, but the criminal acts of individuals seeking power and control by inflicting violence and pain upon others.

This understanding is what allows us to rise above our society’s attitude of victim blame, and beyond long years of silent and ashamed survivors who believed that theirs was a burden to be carried alone. As a community we must life these individuals out of the darkness and support them as they step into the light of healing and hope for a brighter future.

As a community we must pledge to create a world free of sexual violence and removed from the social norms that support aggression and the abuse and oppression of victims. A world that teaches better, safer, more loving interactions between individuals. A world that encourages and expects its young people to treat one another with kindness, tolerance, and respect.

Imagine a world without rape. Imagine a world without sexual assault or abuse. What kind of world would that be? A world where no one is afraid to walk through parking lots alone, of being drugged when they go to a bar. Where no one is ever forced to do something against their will because they consented to a date, or drink, or were in a relationship with their abuser. A world where rape is never a weapon, or a punch line, or something that is ever ‘asked for.’

Imagine a world where heterosexual women, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals aren’t made targets by simply existing. Where male victims do not live in fear of reporting their assaults for fear of being judged or of perceived implications about their masculinity.

Imaging a world where being a ‘man’ doesn’t have to mean violent, tough, powerful and in ‘control.’ Where emotions are respected and aggression is not. A world where people are seen not as victims or potential victims, but as whole autonomous individuals with control over their own bodies and the power to give or withdraw consent. Consent which is not only listened to but respected and granted.

This is a world that we can help to create. It will not happen overnight but will come at the end of a long and exhausting journey. It will come with coordinated and cooperative response by medical professionals, law enforcement, prosecutors, and victims’ advocates. It will come with a community wide outcry that we must support victims and hold offenders responsible. That we must find consistent and effective ways to teach our children about violence, how to prevent it, how to choose different behaviors, and have positive and loving relationships. An outcry that we must become responsible for our own treatment or others. That we must stop forcing others into molds of masculine and feminine, aggressive and submissive, violent and timid, but be a society of self assured, unique individuals, who contribute to a peaceful world.

A world where there is no rape.

 ~Staff

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Relax Ladies (TRIGGER WARINING Rape, Victim Blamimg, Rape Apology)

Imagine that there were a “terrible and alarming trend” of sexual violence on college campuses against female students. Imagine that 20 percent of college women were victims of rape or attempted rape — a rate of sexual assault astronomically higher than anything seen in America’s most violent cities.If 18-year-old girls were in fact walking into such a grotesque maelstrom of sexual violence when they first picked up their dormitory room key, parents and students alike would have demanded a radical restructuring of college life years ago. There would have been a huge surge in all-girls colleges to protect female students from these outrageous levels of sexual violence; those colleges that did still admit boys and girls together would have been forced to prove to worried parents that the boys they were admitting were not rapists — perhaps allowing parents to interview these aspiring monks before they were accepted. Just to be on the safe side, administrators would provide round-the-clock protection for their female students.

Instead, over the last decade or so, the proportion of female students in coed colleges has skyrocketed, so that there are now more girls than boys in most of the nation’s coed schools. Parents relentlessly push their daughters into the most prestigious schools they can get into. Competition among female students to enroll in coed colleges has never been higher. None of those girls demand bodyguards as a condition of acceptance; instead, their parents feel fortunate to cough up tens of thousands of dollars a year to keep their daughters on campus, where they are free to boogie through as many drunken frat parties as they can before passing out from overinhalation of Kahlua and cream.

Heather MacDonald** Chicago Sun-Times “Don’t buy into tale of campus-rape crisis”

It just gets better as you read more!!

Don’t worry ladies! There is no rape crisis!!!! And Especiall not on college campuses! What about the research you’ve heard so much about? It’s fake! Fakey fake fake! How do I know? Heather MacDonald of the Chicago Sun-Times told me! How does she know? She just knows, okay, cause it’s like, obvious. God. More girls are going to college, they wouldnt do that if they were being raped now would they? They would be sequestered in their homes where they should be. Cooking!

Also, if you’re drunk it’s not really rape, it’s just slutty drunk sex, Heather MacDonald told me! Also, probably if you know the guy it’s just slutty slut sluttiness. Sluts! Also, college students are probably going to hell for their slutty drunken orgies. Heather MacDonald and the Chicago Sun-Times knows. Ask her. And don’t forget The Chicago Sun-Times endorsed this message. (Newspapers!) (Contact them! Let them know how much you loved the article!) (Call the Editor in Chief, he’s not busy! (Donald Hayner Editor in chief (312) 321-3000 )

**Heather Mac Donald is the John M. Olin fellow at the Manhattan Institute and co-author of The Immigration Solution. Racism!

 

Article Via Chicago Sun-Times, commentary Via The Unemployed Mind 

~Staff