Anniversary

Yesterday was the fourth anniversary of the day that a stranger appeared suddenly in my life and changed the trajectory of my future. He and I are not celebrating this anniversary with a romantic dinner, a getaway weekend, or love-making. He and I do not even know each other. He probably doesn’t commemorate the first and last time we met like I do. I’m sure he has not lost sleep over thinking about me, is not haunted by my memory – I may even just have been one of many for him, but I will never know.

Yesterday was the fourth anniversary of the day that a stranger raped me.

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Summit: Presentation by Joanne Belknap

Alcohol and drugs do not cause sexual abuse and that’s probably one of the most controversial things I feel like I have said in all of this. People’s basic values don’t change when they’re high or drunk. That I may drink and sing karaoke in a bar, but I don’t drink and hit my child, I don’t drink and kick my dog. That I may do some things that I don’t have the courage to do such as, you know, singing karaoke, that I don’t otherwise, but I’m not going to go out and roll down my window and yell racial epithets when I’m drunk. To say that people suddenly have a completely different value system on what is right or wrong, we have to be really careful about that.

via Summit: Presentation by Joanne Belknap.

Rapes of women in military ‘a national disgrace’

Women in the U.S. military are more likely to be raped by fellow soldiers than killed by enemy fire. I know what you’re thinking – it sounds too unbelievable to be true. But it’s not.

via Rapes of women in military ‘a national disgrace’.

Eating Disorders – Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

Many disorder behaviors are a direct consequence of trauma. Some of the disorders caused by sexual violence include Rape Trauma Syndrome,(PTSD) Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and eating disorders (ED). It is estimated that almost 30% to 40% of eating disorder patients are survivors of sexual trauma.

via Eating Disorders – Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors Message Board and Chat Room.

For Survivors

If you healing from sexual assault and you get out of bed in the morning,

You are doing well.

If you healing from sexual assault and you hold down a job,

You are amazing.

If you are healing from sexual assault and and you are still remotely pleasant to others,

You are a lot nicer than me.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot always be there for a friend,

You are still a good friend and a strong enough person to know what is best for you.

If you are healing from sexual assault, and find it difficult to care for yourself, but still find the strength to care and love your family than you are strong as well.

via Sin’Dorei Psychology – Please Read:.

Rape: Myth v. Reality

Myth: Sexual assault is an impulsive, uncontrollable act of passion. The victim isirresistible to the rapist.

Fact:

 

Rape is an act of violence, not of sexual desire. The majority of rapes are planned: the place arranged, enticement used, or the victim deliberately sought and coerced into sexual relations.It is the vulnerability of the victim that attracts the sexual predator. Victims range from infants to the elderly. Anyone, regardless of age, sex, physical appearance, marital status,ethnic, religious or socio-economic background can be raped.Get the full list here (PDF)

Angry Army Wife | Braley bill targets military sexual assaults

In introducing legislation that prevents the destruction of records relating to sex crimes, Iowa congressman cites a report that 23% of women in combat areas are victimized. TELEGRAPH HERALD

Congressman Bruce Braley, D-Iowa, has introduced a bipartisan bill aimed at helping victims of sexual trauma and assault in the military.

The Support for Survivors Act would require the U.S. Department of Defense to ensure life-long storage of all documents connected with reports of sexual assaults and sexual harassment across the military branches. The legislation also would prevent the military from destroying any records relating to sexual assault.

“The men and women who serve our country need to know that their government is standing up for them,” said Braley. “Just earlier today, I heard testimony from Linda Schwartz, the president of the National Association of State Directors of Veterans Affairs. She cited reports showing that 23 percent of women serving in combat areas report being victims of sexual assault perpetrated by other members of the military. That’s simply unacceptable, and we cannot allow it to continue.”

via Angry Army Wife | Braley bill targets military sexual assaults.

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“Rape is rape is rape,” says Biden.

On April 4, Vice President Joe Biden addressed Sexual Violence in a speech at the University of New Hampshire. Biden shared the experiences of Jenny (not her real name), a college freshman who was raped last year, New Hampshire Public Radio reported:

He said she’d been drinking at a party. And when she sought justice through the school, she was asked what she was wearing, how she was dancing, and whether she was sober.

“The student judicial panel said they didn’t find Jenny credible because she had been drinking. They decided her rapist was a nice kid and didn’t deserve the punishment under the circumstances,” Biden said….

But whether someone is drunk or sober doesn’t matter. As Biden put it, “Look folks – rape is rape is rape.”..

That’s one message that Biden hit hard: “Look guys – no matter what a girl does, no matter how she’s dressed, no matter how much she’s had to drink, it’s never, never, never, never OK to touch her without her consent. This doesn’t make you a man. It makes you a coward.”

via bibliofeminista — “Rape is rape is rape,” says Biden..

(bolded for emphasis) I know we’ve already discussed Biden’s talk and linked to more info, but we just can’t get over how good it was. “This doesn’t make you a man. It makes you a coward.” Preach.

~Staff

For those who would like to create their own Satellite SlutWalk– from the Toronto SlutWalk site

For those who would like to create their own Satellite SlutWalk— from the Toronto SlutWalk site

SlutWalk Toronto started from a position of feeling like we’d had enough – enough of being angry, wanting better education, awareness and treatment and not seeing more about it; it was out of frustration with police services continuing myths and stereotypes about who is sexually assaulted and why. In organizing SlutWalk Toronto we worked on uniting people across diverse populations; contacted several organizations that we felt could be our allies; we contacted media to get attention and spread the word; we asked for volunteers and worked on making t-shirts, buttons and posters. To say the least we planned ahead for our April 3rd event.

Toronto attendance is not feasible for everyone. So we’ve set up some basic guidelines for Satellite SlutWalks, and if we think that a good match has been made, we will promote your event on our site. We would prefer that Satellite SlutWalks occur after the date of our main event on April 3rd in order to have as many supporters as possible, but understand if that is not possible.

via Whatever we wear, wherever we go, “no” means NO, For those who would like to create their own Satellite SlutWalk– from the Toronto SlutWalk site.

Click through for more guidelines and ideas