“Denim Day” Counts All the Ways We Excuse Sexual Assault

#2 SHE WAS ASKING FOR IT:

It is often believed that sexy or suggestive clothing invites wanted male attention, positive or negative. Regardless, wearing revealing clothing does not invite sexual assault. In fact, women and girls have been raped in everything from jeans to business suits to pajamas. This belief reinforces the myth that women and girls invite assault by their clothing choices and shifts the blame for the crime to the victim and away from the perpetrator, where it belongs.

via “Denim Day” Counts All the Ways We Excuse Sexual Assault – The Sexist – Washington City Paper.

Just A Smack On The Ass: A Tale Of Sexual Assault, Vengeance And Nervous Swearing » Blog of Rights: Official Blog of the American Civil Liberties Union

Last month, the ACLU’s Louise Melling blogged about how street harassment shames and humiliates women, and is underreported because of the stigma attached to it. While that blog was making the editing rounds here at the office, I shared my own story of how I dealt with a particularly obnoxious harasser, and my esteemed colleagues suggested I share it. Since April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, after all, here it is. And there’s gonna be swearing. I’m really sorry in advance (Mom).

via Just A Smack On The Ass: A Tale Of Sexual Assault, Vengeance And Nervous Swearing » Blog of Rights: Official Blog of the American Civil Liberties Union.

How far will you go?

One of the consequences of rape is considerable anxiety concerning sexual activity. For men who are the sexual partners of rape victims, there is likely to be a temporary disruption in previous patterns of sexual activity. The lack of understanding or the insensitivity of a victim’s partner may make the resumption of sexual activity seem rapelike, or provide her with cues that remind her of the incident. If you are the partner of a rape victim or if you are a rape victim you may consider sharing these suggestions with your partner.
via How far will you go?.

Eating Disorders – Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

Many disorder behaviors are a direct consequence of trauma. Some of the disorders caused by sexual violence include Rape Trauma Syndrome,(PTSD) Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and eating disorders (ED). It is estimated that almost 30% to 40% of eating disorder patients are survivors of sexual trauma.

via Eating Disorders – Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors Message Board and Chat Room.

For Survivors

If you healing from sexual assault and you get out of bed in the morning,

You are doing well.

If you healing from sexual assault and you hold down a job,

You are amazing.

If you are healing from sexual assault and and you are still remotely pleasant to others,

You are a lot nicer than me.

If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot always be there for a friend,

You are still a good friend and a strong enough person to know what is best for you.

If you are healing from sexual assault, and find it difficult to care for yourself, but still find the strength to care and love your family than you are strong as well.

via Sin’Dorei Psychology – Please Read:.

Rape: Myth v. Reality

Myth: Sexual assault is an impulsive, uncontrollable act of passion. The victim isirresistible to the rapist.

Fact:

 

Rape is an act of violence, not of sexual desire. The majority of rapes are planned: the place arranged, enticement used, or the victim deliberately sought and coerced into sexual relations.It is the vulnerability of the victim that attracts the sexual predator. Victims range from infants to the elderly. Anyone, regardless of age, sex, physical appearance, marital status,ethnic, religious or socio-economic background can be raped.Get the full list here (PDF)

For those who would like to create their own Satellite SlutWalk– from the Toronto SlutWalk site

For those who would like to create their own Satellite SlutWalk— from the Toronto SlutWalk site

SlutWalk Toronto started from a position of feeling like we’d had enough – enough of being angry, wanting better education, awareness and treatment and not seeing more about it; it was out of frustration with police services continuing myths and stereotypes about who is sexually assaulted and why. In organizing SlutWalk Toronto we worked on uniting people across diverse populations; contacted several organizations that we felt could be our allies; we contacted media to get attention and spread the word; we asked for volunteers and worked on making t-shirts, buttons and posters. To say the least we planned ahead for our April 3rd event.

Toronto attendance is not feasible for everyone. So we’ve set up some basic guidelines for Satellite SlutWalks, and if we think that a good match has been made, we will promote your event on our site. We would prefer that Satellite SlutWalks occur after the date of our main event on April 3rd in order to have as many supporters as possible, but understand if that is not possible.

via Whatever we wear, wherever we go, “no” means NO, For those who would like to create their own Satellite SlutWalk– from the Toronto SlutWalk site.

Click through for more guidelines and ideas

RAPE STATISTICS at CANADIAN UNIVERSITES!

Holly’s Fight for Justice: RAPE STATISTICS at CANADIAN UNIVERSITES!.

1. Four out of five female undergraduates surveyed at Canadian universities said that they had been victims of violence in a dating relationship. Of that number, 29% reported incidents of sexual assault. (W. DeKeseredy and K. Kelly, “The Incidence and Prevalence of Woman Abuse in Canadian University and College Dating Relationships: Results From a National Survey,” Ottawa: Health Canada, 1993)

2. A survey on date rape showed that 60% of Canadian college-aged males indicated that they would commit sexual assault if they were certain they would not get caught. (Helen Lenskyj, “An Analysis of Violence Against Women: A Manual for Educators and Administrators,” Toronto: Ontario Institute for Studies in Education, 1992)

3. According to Statistics Canada, only 6% of all sexual assaults are reported to the police. (Statistics Canada, “The Violence Against Women Survey,” The Daily, November 18, 1993)

4. Only 1% of all date rapes are reported to police. (Diana Russell, Sexual Exploitation: Rape, Child Abuse and Workplace Harassment, California: Sage Publishing, 1984)

Via Holly’s Fight For Justice, See full list of stats linked above.

Feds Launch Inquiry Into Sexual Harassment At Yale : NPR

April 6, 2011 from WNPR Warning: There is language in this story that some people may find objectionable.

Federal authorities are investigating whether Yale University has failed to effectively handle complaints of sexual harassment and assault.

The inquiry comes just Washington spelled out higher education’s new legal obligations to respond to sexual violence.

Vice President Biden announced the federal guidelines during an April 4 speech at the University of New Hampshire. He said when it comes to sexual abuse, it’s quite simple.

“No means no, if you’re drunk or you’re sober. No means no if you’re in bed, in a dorm or on the street. No means no even if you said yes at first and you changed your mind. No means no,” Biden said.

But Yale students pledging to the Delta Kappa Epsilon fraternity chanted this about rape as they marched around campus last year: “No means yes, yes means anal. No means yes, yes mean anal.”

The incident was posted on YouTube, and, according to Yale junior Alexandra Brodsky, is just the latest in a string of female harassment incidents on the Ivy League campus.

Federal authorities are investigating whether Yale University has failed to effectively handle complaints of sexual harassment and assault.

via Feds Launch Inquiry Into Sexual Harassment At Yale : NPR.

Relax Ladies (TRIGGER WARINING Rape, Victim Blamimg, Rape Apology)

Imagine that there were a “terrible and alarming trend” of sexual violence on college campuses against female students. Imagine that 20 percent of college women were victims of rape or attempted rape — a rate of sexual assault astronomically higher than anything seen in America’s most violent cities.If 18-year-old girls were in fact walking into such a grotesque maelstrom of sexual violence when they first picked up their dormitory room key, parents and students alike would have demanded a radical restructuring of college life years ago. There would have been a huge surge in all-girls colleges to protect female students from these outrageous levels of sexual violence; those colleges that did still admit boys and girls together would have been forced to prove to worried parents that the boys they were admitting were not rapists — perhaps allowing parents to interview these aspiring monks before they were accepted. Just to be on the safe side, administrators would provide round-the-clock protection for their female students.

Instead, over the last decade or so, the proportion of female students in coed colleges has skyrocketed, so that there are now more girls than boys in most of the nation’s coed schools. Parents relentlessly push their daughters into the most prestigious schools they can get into. Competition among female students to enroll in coed colleges has never been higher. None of those girls demand bodyguards as a condition of acceptance; instead, their parents feel fortunate to cough up tens of thousands of dollars a year to keep their daughters on campus, where they are free to boogie through as many drunken frat parties as they can before passing out from overinhalation of Kahlua and cream.

Heather MacDonald** Chicago Sun-Times “Don’t buy into tale of campus-rape crisis”

It just gets better as you read more!!

Don’t worry ladies! There is no rape crisis!!!! And Especiall not on college campuses! What about the research you’ve heard so much about? It’s fake! Fakey fake fake! How do I know? Heather MacDonald of the Chicago Sun-Times told me! How does she know? She just knows, okay, cause it’s like, obvious. God. More girls are going to college, they wouldnt do that if they were being raped now would they? They would be sequestered in their homes where they should be. Cooking!

Also, if you’re drunk it’s not really rape, it’s just slutty drunk sex, Heather MacDonald told me! Also, probably if you know the guy it’s just slutty slut sluttiness. Sluts! Also, college students are probably going to hell for their slutty drunken orgies. Heather MacDonald and the Chicago Sun-Times knows. Ask her. And don’t forget The Chicago Sun-Times endorsed this message. (Newspapers!) (Contact them! Let them know how much you loved the article!) (Call the Editor in Chief, he’s not busy! (Donald Hayner Editor in chief (312) 321-3000 )

**Heather Mac Donald is the John M. Olin fellow at the Manhattan Institute and co-author of The Immigration Solution. Racism!

 

Article Via Chicago Sun-Times, commentary Via The Unemployed Mind 

~Staff